Feminist Theory in an Office Reality
I Have a Feminist Degree, But Reporting Sexism Was Still Hard - Here’s My Best Advice
As it’s the holiday season, I still wanted to bring out some killer content but haven’t had as much time to create it…BUT luckily Fairy God Boss posted this piece that I wrote about office sexism. Check it out!
You always told yourself you would do something if confronted with this situation. So when sexism happens and you find that you freeze or, worse, dismiss it with a nonchalant laugh, you create excuses. You start to question if you’re overreacting. You gaslight yourself. “It’s not a big deal. If he was dangerous, I would say something," you say in your head.
You put yourself through all of the subjugation that you’ve studied to be myths, even though you know how incorrect they are.
“Tomorrow I won’t wear such a tight dress, so he can’t tell me that he likes ‘the fit’ of it.” “Why did I have to walk past him this morning; couldn’t I have just waited to go to the bathroom?”
You see the looks of internalized fury in the eyes of a female co-worker as he massages her at her desk. And yet you still wonder: am I just blowing this out of proportion?
Then, you start to get mad. You privately scream at yourself for remaining silent within this archaic power balance, perfectly aware of how you’re minimizing not only your own experience, but that of others. It starts to drive you insane. Eventually, you’re only left with one question: If I — a rape culture educated, outspoken feminist — am not able to speak out against office sexism, then who is?
To read the rest, check out the whole piece here.